Peter - The Solution.

Another post from Sunday 6th April 2025

After we had eaten all the cakes he surprised me a little by asking if that was it and could he leave. 

I'm not sure what else I was expecting.

“Have you had enough of me then?” I asked whilst giving a little laugh.

“No, you're nice, I just thought that was it after we eat the cakes.” He replied.

“You are free to leave if you wish, it wouldn't be a good look if this were a date though. It gives the impression that you aren't really interested in me.” I pointed out to him.

He got what I was saying and seemed pleased that I had pointed this out to him, although to be honest he shouldn't need it pointing out. But we weren't  on a date so I guess that makes a difference.

I asked him what Ysanne had said to him when she turned him down the first time. I was thinking that maybe she was already seeing someone, but I was wrong. It turns out he never asked her himself but got his sister to do it for him and apparently Ysanne laughed at the idea. So I can see why he was put off, but I can also see why she turned him down and I told him so.

We chatted a bit more, all the time trying to steer things towards teaching him ways to approach a girl he might like, and then just as we were collecting things up to take back to the house he surprised me by asking straight out if I would like to be his girl friend as he really liked me. The surprise being that he actually asked me, and not that he liked me. I realised then that I had talked myself in to a corner, because if I said no, then that would undo all my good work on him. But on the other hand I definitely didn't want to be his girl friend and all that involves.

Well, I couldn't lead him on could I, so said, “I appreciate the thought behind you asking me that, and your approach was okay for me, but I'm not looking for a boy friend at the moment.”

I could see and almost feel his disappointment, so I added, “Don't be upset, you did good, but it was just the wrong question for me and my situation at the moment. You might have been better asking if I would go on a date with you.”

With that his head lifted, “Would you?” He asked.

“Yes, as long as I get to choose when and where, you arrange and pay for it and get it clear in your head that it's just a one off date. There will be nothing after it.” Was my reply.

He was very happy to agree and asked what I would like to do. I have to confess now to being a tricky bitch because I had this idea in my mind that if I could get him to come to the stables where there was an over abundance of females, just about all within his age range, if nothing else he would get used to being around them and hopefully find one that he got on well enough to approach. Also there would be a good chance that I would be around to advice him if he should need it. Of course he might need some help as they are not the most approachable bunch as I've found to my own cost. However I'm hoping he will have more incentive so therefore be more willing to push his way in than I did. I only hope he behaves himself.

So, having put it off all this time I have agreed to go on a one hour horse ride this coming Saturday. He was a bit apprehensive about it until I told him I had never ridden either so it would be a first time for both of us. Of course we will simply be holding on, probably for dear life in my case, while being lead round by a couple of the girls. So there won't be any galloping off in to the sunset together, and I know it won't be private or anything but that is why I chose this sort of date. I didn't want him getting any of his fancy ideas, also I had to get it past mum. 

As we left the summerhouse to join the others he said, “I'm really sorry for what I did to you, and thank you for being so nice to me.”

“I hope you can find it in yourself to say the same to Charlotte as it was a really horrible thing for her, both looking through her phone and also violating her friends like that.”

He simply said “ Yes.” But had a deep thoughtful look about him.